PARENTS V/S CHILDREN

 

Few days ago, I got a call from a friend. He said "Bhai, Ghar pe uske bare mein pata chal Gaya hai, mahol bahut kharab hai! "  I could just wonder what must be happening in his house and what condition would he and his parents be in? My thoughts went  to the extremes….

Then it came to my mind that the same thing must be happening in most of the families. The above incident is just an example but, today, the most important thing in most of the families is parents & child coordination. So let's discuss the same in a third person perspective.

To,

Dear Parents, 

                        I agree they are your children, you care about them and you do only for their sake and their better life. But sometimes your care becomes a cage.

 Yes, I agree that there might be some of your goals but you couldn't complete them because of the conditions, but you can't force your children to go for it! You can express "I want you to do this", but you can't say "you have to do only this !" Because at last it's their life and they have to decide what they have to do ! Yes, I agree being in relationships at a small age is not good, but it's just an attraction! You need to talk to them, counsel them. Try make them understand and trust me, this will work. In this changing era, there should be parents' and children's coordination rather than being angry at each other!  Because this generation is totally different. They need freedom; freedom to explore, freedom to learn, freedom to leave. Rather than being parents, try to be friends, try to know your child, try to dig out what he/she has hidden inside him. Talk to them about life, tell them about your life. Not only the good things you have done but also the bad things because children learn from bad things early! Let your children grow the way they want, let them make their own way you just help them in making the way! Guide them, don't rule them, trust them, don't frustrate them, c'mon they are your children, your reflection, your blood they'll be the same as you only! Let them grow and you enjoy seeing them grow !  

To, 

Dear children 

                       Guys there is a lot of difference in our time and their time. The difficulties they went through are the easy tasks today. They have been through many ups and downs in their life and obviously have got much more experiences than you! They are the one who changed your nappies, they are the ones on whom you peed on then and are pissing off their minds today! They were there with you every time when you needed it. Yes they get angry, they behave weird and many more things but for whom? Try to be close to them, discuss each and everything with them, try to bring them into your trend, make it a happy family rather than a disturbed family.

It's for both of the parents as well as children. You have to balance it. The dream of a happy family is one thing and working on making it a happy family is another! Try to work on the other thing. You can't clap with a single hand both the hands are needed so think on it, take action and make a good healthy family !! 

- Anant Sarika Nadgouda